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…Ladies… stand in the mirror and repeat this 20 times daily: Having a man does not make you or break you!

Too often, during the proverbial girl talk with friends, relatives, co-workers, etc…, I seem to be hearing constant dramatic-isms of how miserable these ladies are because either they can’t find a man, or they are having problems with their man… and it seems to consume their whole perception of their lives in a negative manner. My response and advice to these women is the same every time–but first, I have to ask WHY? I mean seriously, I was brought up to be super independent, not to depend on a man, husband, or partner for anything—but to have my own so-to-speak. Don’t get me wrong, having someone to share this wonderful life’s journey with is a pleasant plus–but it isn’t the end of all if we don’t have that at the moment. Personally, I know that I CAN–I and have survived on my own plenty of times–happilly, and I have never allowed a man or a bad relationship to devour my outlook on life–I am the creator of my own outlook. So I have to wonder, where are these women learning this behavior? Where does that come from–men certainly don’t act this way.  But then I have to step back and look around… and realize that this frame of thinking is the societal norm, and I am the one, actually outside the great definition of ‘the norm’.

Society has pushed the ‘socially correct’ path of women for centuries—from day one, as a matter of fact, and sadly, I have to say that subconsciously, in society’s small-minded idealism, that ‘correct’ path, really hasn’t changed to much! 

Back in the ‘old days,’ women were raised to follow only the straight and narrow marry, have children, cook, clean, teach, and take care of her family path. It was not important that she be educated, be worldly or knowledgeable, as long as she could cook and clean, take care of her husband and bear children, she was good. Later, as women began showing up in the workforce (teachers, nurses, secretaries, etc..), education and social rights began changing for women, and as time went on, women won more and more different items to add to her path–but still–society continued to nonchalantly push the ‘socially correct’ path. For instance, let’s take a look at our feminine fairy tales, shall we.

Let’s see, we have Cinderella. Cinderella was a victim of her evil step-mother—her father’s second wife who had her own three daughters, whom she was trying to marry off to the wealthiest suitor. Because she was the ‘step-child’, she was forced to do all the duties the other women in the house did not want to do… cook, clean, sew, garden, etc… While the other daughters focused on how to catch the perfect husband. The fairy tale did not focus on anything other than the importance of attracting a good husband—attract the Prince, and life was a happily ever after. 

Moving on, snow White. Snow White was a beautiful princess—the fairest in the land… who got hated on by the jealous queen who instructed the woodsman to take her out to the forest to kill her. However the woodsman did not so the evil queen poisoned an apple to kill her. Snow White ate the apple and she never woke up. Somehow, the Prince finds her–is taken by her beauty, opens the casket and either kisses her (or shakes the casket whereby she spits up the apple–depending on which version you see/read) which awakens her. Snow White marries the Prince, and lives happily ever after. 

Next we have Sleeping Beauty. As a baby, Princess Aurora is cursed by an evil witch to die by her 16th birthday by a poisoned spinning-wheel. To try to prevent this, the king places her into hiding, in the care of three good fairies to protect her and one of the fairies casts a spell upon her that will allow the her to awake from an ageless sleep with a kiss from her true love… Needless to say, she gets poisoned, and is in ageless sleep, the Prince fights his way to her, kisses her, she awakes, she marries him and she lives happily ever after. 

…You get the point, from childhood on up we, girls, are put in the mindset that the most important thing for us in order to live happily ever after is to find Prince charming. Yes, finding Prince charming is great, but living our lives and following our dreams and reaching our goals are important too… so why are so many women putting their whole life’s outlook into having a man…?

I don’t know, just something I was pondering as I was listening to someone going on and on about how miserable this person has made her life…  I mean, yes, love is grand… but it isn’t the only thing that constitutes “happily ever after”.

Love yourself 1st Princesses! Make yourself happy 1st! Live YOUR lives in happiness and positivity… and love will come.

And that is all )

AKA Paris E.

I was just thinking, there is MUCH to say about being a Mother.

I was talking with a co-worker this morning about her morning exhaustion caused by lack of sleep due to her endless evenings worth of ‘Motherly duties’ and how tough it is to be a Mom of toddlers, and it got me thinking back to when my children (twins–now 12) were that age, and I thought, wow, that part was easy… Try getting them up & ready for school every morning, waking them up at 5am because the alarm sure doesn’t; pushing them into the shower, teeth brushed/flossed; pushing them to get dressed; nagging them to eat (and stay off the game systems/TV); double checking that they have their homework in their backpacks; that they have their clean gym clothes bags, lunch money, keys, socks, shoes, jackets, walk the dogs and warning them not to miss the bus (so I dont have to leave work, come home to take them to school!), all the while trying to get myself together and out of the house by 6:30 too… Then think about literally racing home at 3:30 to get to after school activities and sports, practice after a full days work…. followed by 7th grade homework for two involving hours of extensive research for health, history, literature, foriegn languages & science projects, editing papers, remembering, studying and re-teaching algebra and geometry formulas, and relearning to aid them in studing for all of the above subject area tests, filling out tons of redundant paperwork, while simultaneously cooking a nutritional-well-balanced dinner (yeah right), folding laundry, walking the dogs, feeding all the pets, cleaning up, ironing for the next day, and preparing your thoughts and paperwork for your own morning meeting. I know I have left a whole slew of things out, but any of the moms out there know exatly where I am going with this so I will end it here… All of that merely to say that the word(s) “Mommy”, “Mom”, “Mother”, “Mamma”, “Mama”, “Ma”, “Mami”, “Madre”, “Mum”, etc… should always be written with a capital letter to show the MUCH deserved respect for the meaning of the word…

SALUTE to us all.

I LOVE my children and I am truley BLESSED to be their ‘Mommy’… though I admit it is always quite challenge–but one I so willingly accept in love. <3

xo’s

AKA Paris E

I just have to say RIP Amy Winehouse. Many warm thoughts, prayer and condolence to her family and friends. I feel so bad for them, her life in addiction was such a long difficult battle… I feel for her, but mostly for her family and friends that have seen her through all of the ups and downs of addiction and now her passing… RIP Amy, I hope that you have finally found your peace… xo’s

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As usual, I have been MIA from my blog. Life has been a whirlwind of nonstop business, but of course, I wouldn’t have it any other way There has been so much in the news lately, I wouldn’t even know where to start blogging today But I wanted to check in and just say I am alive and well, living life and loving it! Don’t miss me too much

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Over the past few months, we have had hundreds of birds drop dead out of the sky–unexplained, hundreds of fish floating around dead in the waters–unexplained, and now we have hundreds of cows that just dropped dead–also unexplained. Some spiritually-minded people would warn that these unexplained events are all signs of the beginning of the apocalypse or end of the world, and then some scholarly people would try to explain it as science and/or the greenhouse effect, but no matter the viewpoint–these events remain–”unexplained.” How are these unrelated phenomenons occurring? Your guess is as good as mine. I just group it with all those other mysteries and phenomenons that are–to this day unexplainable. Things such as miracles, myths, ghosts, spirits, God, the entire universe for that matter… So I was just curious, where are you on this totem pole of thought? When people around you speak on these strange events, where does your mind take you?

xo’s
AKA Paris E.

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Happy 12th Birthday to the loves of my life, my FINEST work, and my GREATEST Blessings. Time has gone so fast, it seems just like yesteryear I was navigating that double stroller, evaluating who to run after first when u learned to walk and run (in separate directions of course ) … and now my precious little babies are 12 years old.

I’ve watched thousands of ‘chick flick’ movies, and seen mothers cry as their children grew… but I never really fully understood all the emotion… until now. But as I look at these two little people in utter amazement, now almost as tall as me,  with minds, characters and opinions all their own, I wonder and think nostalgically–with mother’s tears in my eyes…where did all the time go?

All that to say, I am feeling so emotional today, my ‘babies’ are growing up… and I am feeling so blessed and honored to be their mom–relishing in the joys and pains of motherhood.

Happy12th  Birthday my ‘Babydolly’ and ‘Biscuit’, Mommy loves you so, so very much…

Cheers,

AKA Paris E.

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Absolutely amazing footage! Needless to say… the game has been moved to Monday night at the Lion’s Den, Ford Field in Detroit. Think the extra day off will get Farve back in the game?

….Crazy, but I’m breaking hibernation mode again tonight! I’ll be heading out to DC for the Annual DMV Lawyers Ball …I swear people got me on celebrity socialite status so much so that my dance card is too full of Holiday and end-of-the-year events and VIP social soirees to make appearances at—but my question is: WHY do people schedule these things on the weekdays?? WTF… Anyway, for reputation sake, guess I’ll be out partying with the DMV Lawyers tonight–wish me warm thoughts … sigh, oh what to wear, what to wear… **I’ve been told that long johns and a parka would not be acceptable attire–I feel cold already–perhaps I will inquire about wearing a Snuggie… ! xo’s

Paris E-ismz: The new geek girl motto for 2011

For all of you who continually ask me on a regular:

…(you know, AFTER you have done all the things I warned you not to do the last time I fixed your ish…)

…Please note that I will be sporting this all new ‘tell-all in a Tee’ look in 2011…(the blinged out rhinestone version of course )      LMBO!!!!

Muahz & much love to ya’z!

:-p    AKA Paris E.

Aye, es muy frio! I’m now thinking about this club event n DC tonight in a little dress–WTF! Real talk, I think I should be wearing a snow suit or a parka instead . Nevertheless, my girl is receiving the “Woman of the Year” award from DC’s own “Be There Magazine,” so guess what? Yes, I shall be out in the COLD–and in that lil black dress reppin’ at Policy nightclub in DC tonight! Wish me warmth, or come out, and celebrate with us!!

xo’s
AKA Paris E.